I'm new here and am looking for support! I'm single and had a hard time finding an agency that would let me adopt a newborn domestic baby. I want to know if anyone else has been involved in a nightmare of an adoption. I am in the middle of an independent adoption. My son was born 3 weeks early and I only had 3 weeks to prepare for him. I was in the O.R when he was born. He was 5 minutes old when he was placed into my arms. I took a protocal so I could produce milk and nurse him. The birth mother had told me the birth father (he is 44)was very ill with Heppatitis C and hadn't supported her while pregnant and was mad at her for not having an abortion like he ordered her to. My son is now almost 7 months old and the birth father is fighting to have full custody of him because this is his first son (he has two girls 16 & 18 and a granddaughter 5 months). He didn't raise his two daughters had very little to do with them until my little boy was born. I have offered him an open adoption and even to hyphenate the last name. He doesn't want anything to do with it. Until we go to court which could be anytime he gets visitation. I have offered two hour supervised visitation once a week and he stays just a little over an hour (he smell of alcohol when he arrives of course he has tried to cover up the oder with lolts of minty gum and over bearing cologne). He normally gives up because the baby goes to sleep. NOw he wants 4 hours unsupervised. Has anyone been in this nightmare and come out in the end with their child? The state of Washington is very difficult to terminate a parent's rights. It has taken me 8 years to become a mom. I spent 7 years in infertility hell and 1 year looking to adopt. Now I'm in adoption hell. However, my son is my dream come true. I love being a mom it is better than I ever imagined! Any suggestion or support in helping me save my son is deeply appreciated.
Sincerely
Anxious mama
P.S I have more details if you are interested.
