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If it were me I'd ask how serious the attachment problems are, if she has killed any animals, set any fires, tried to poison anyone, or made false accusations against caregivers in previous homes.
Have you read Can This Child Be Saved? It is a book that is very scary, about kids with attachment disorders, some of whom kill their parents and stuff like that. We've had bad experience with RAD in our family, my cousin had RAD and terrorized his parents and sister until he finally turned 18 and was sent to prison for other crimes. He doesn't seem so bad now that he is in his 30's, but that is a long time to wait for a relationship with a child. Also, my sister was raped and murdered by her brother-in-law's foster son. I don't know what his diagnoses would have been (this happened about 20 years ago), but RAD seems like a likely one. He's in prison now for killing someone else.
If you are not familiar with attachment issues, I hope you have some time to read up on them before you make a decision. A few positive books are Building the Bonds of Attachment, and books/tapes by Nancy Thomas.
Personally I am not willing to take a child with serious attachment problems. I haven't found a child that I get to adopt yet, but I've had two 7 yr old Legal Risk foster daughters, and they both had lots of ability to attach, they were really fun kids (after some less wonderful adjustment periods with tantrums, defiance, etc.), also both were kind and loving to animals.
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