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That's so interesting that you should mention that. I remember growing up and asking my mom about having babies. I will always remember her response when she told me that if she had been unable to have children of her own, she would rather not have had children at all! When I asked why, she said she just couldn't imagine raising someone elses child.
I didn't think much of it until we started struggling with infertility ourselves, and my mom gave us a sum of money with which to try IVF (it would have covered maybe one try before running out). And my husband and I made the very easy decision of putting it towards adoption instead. I wondered what my mother would think of that, in light of what she'd said years earlier. But she said it was ours to with as we pleased.
7 months later we brought our beautiful baby girl home and my mom, who I hadn't seen in 8 years (she lives halfway across the world, in Australia), hopped on a plane to meet granddaughter. She fell instantly in love with her and I didn't have to feed her or change a nappy for the next 3 weeks! Now when she phones or emails, the first thing she asks is how her grandbaby is doing.
When I told her I had been worried about her being able to bond with our daughter because of what she'd said so many years ago, she just kind of poopoo'ed what she'd said and said that wasn't the same thing, because now it concerned her own daughter and granddaughter. I don't think I'll ever get a straight answer on that one, but I'm relieved and pleased that she adores our daughter like we do.
Simone
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