My intellectual response is quite different from my personal response. My intellectual response is understanding of interpersonal differences, values, and beliefs - similar to the post immediately above.
My personal response comes from my adopted self, not my adoptive mom self. I know it is --personal-- and not applicable to others, but I find that whole attitude highly insulting. I feel more than a twinge of anger - probably because I interpret the 'I could never adopt' as meaning at some level that --I-- an not lovable, or that my parents didn't love me -- it accentuates the differences between biological kids and adopted kids and it ticks me off - - as if I am less than, as if I hadn't been a 'good' daughter. Then I think - ha ha -- you won't ever have the chance to have a great kid.
Now how's that for immature & self-centered ?
