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I know we, hubby and I, made the right choice with having our daughter leave the house for awhile. I just hope that the RTC sees what we see and they can help her realize that there are people that love her and how to love back. Today though I am having another really hard day. It goes from ok to really bad really quick.
We have tried to find an attorney and am finding it hard to find someone that has time.. The judge does know the reason we have to say this and it is stated in the court papers that "this is by all means not the parents fault or choice". I am hopeful that this be looked at at a later time if need be. I am really unhappy with the way DHS has handled this and the way they have taken their sweet time to help get us the help. It took four months from the time we found out to the time to start our daughter into therapy that is correct for her.
Our son is doing alot better... I guess. He has been in therapy since about two weeks after this was found out. He has been acting out in other ways now though. The lieing and stealing is driving me nuts. He is ADHD and has decided that he needs a candy bar or two or three in the morning. So no wonder why his teacher in having a hard time in the morning. I thought it was because of everyhting that he is dealing with but it is the sugar rush he has put into himself earlier. We are actually getting him on meds for anxiety today and that will help in one aspect of his life.
As far as getting help for ,hubby and I we are going to a support group that deals with sexaully abused children adn sibling incest. It helps alittle, but not alot. All of the other families are dealing with Bio kids and I feel as though I really don't belong there. It has shown us we are not the only ones out there and that the Social Services here is really slow with everyone not just us. So I guess that helps a bit too.
I am having a real hard time just going day to day without being mad at the system at their bio parents (which are in prison), at myself for not asking more questions, at the world for letting this happen to our family. All we wanted was to expand our family and have a great family. I didn;t adopt to have people say what a wonderful thing we are doing for kids like this. I did it to share the world of parenthood with my husband.
Well enough from me thanks for letting me vent.
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