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tiya,
i also agree with linny, i wouldnt admit to neglect...it could cause some problems down the road with your child.
I think you need to talk to a lawyer and see what else you could do.
i also agree about getting a support group and therapy...this has helped our family alot.
we were adopting siblings also, two boys, they were seperated for three years in the foster care system.
to make a long story short...our older son needed more help then we could provide.
he has been hospitilized three times, RTC and group home once. He is still angry...he has alot to deal with and we didnt have the degrees and experience to know what was really going on....we just knew we were living in a war zone.
we ended up disrupting, and it has been a very hard year with alot of tears.
we still have contact, but he needed so much more then we
could give.
were still grieving the loss of our son even though we still see him alot, knowing that he isnt ours anymore is devasting.
im not saying disrupt, but your child needs more help then you can provide. and it takes a good parent to let go and let him/her get the help they desearve.
i know its hard, but sometimes we have to make hard choices for our children
his brother here, is doing better, no more being quiet and being a shadow on the wall due to the attentiuon our older son needed.
he misses him, sure, but he is doing so much better.
but i wouldnt admit neglect, there has to be another way...im not sure what the other way is, but i wouldnt jump to the neglect part until you talk someone
dadfor2
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