Hi joanne,
Yes unfortunately, my relationship with my adoptive parents is over.I wish it were not the case, but at the end of the day, I have had to accept they do not love me.
Our breakdown started with a serious disagreement, and I went as far as I felt able to resolve it.I needed answers, but they were not willing to discuss the issue.What was relly hard to accept was thier total indifference towards me.If I had a fall out with one of my children I would chase after them, even be angry at them, but there seems to be no desire for a relationship from them at all.They are not seeing thier grandchildren, but that doesn't seem to be bothering them.For my sanity I've had to accept that we will probably never have a relationship again.
They've never been open with me, but my strong suspiscion is that there are other issues, not related to adoption in thier lives that have impacted thier ability to be emotionally close to me and to each other.
Anyway- I'm glad to see adoptive parents supporting each other here, and as I am adopting now,I might have to face my daughter reuniting with her birth parents.I wonder if we can keep this thread going till then!
Jude
