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I know you meant well, but the whole Tummy Lady thing made me shudder. It made me think of a milk cow or a baby factory or something. I am sure you didn't mean it to come out like that, but that is how it sounds to me.
I am an adoptee. My first mother is one of my two mothers. I love both of my mothers with all my heart. Just as a mother can love more than one child, a child can love more than one mother.
My first mother loved me dearly and still does. She wasn't merely a tummy, a vessel, that incubated me until I was ready to hatch; she is one of my two mothers. I have her eyes and nose and I am a part of her.
I am glad that my amom always referred to her as my mother and not just a tummy, even though she had no idea who she was. She made sure I understood that the people who created me loved me like any mother and father would. It was the single most important thing she did for my self esteem.
I hope you do the same for your daughter. It really does make a difference, in my opinion.
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