[riley6]

>>>>>>>>Do you think that applies if the bmom's rights are terminated by the judge, not by choice? She's not, at this time, planning on signing away her rights. At least I don't think so.>

Our older kids' bmom did not voluntarily sign. I still felt it was best for them to have the bi-annual visitation. You have to do for your child what you feel is best for him.

>>>>>>I also have another question. Should this bmom get T back and lose him again, he will come back to me. My question is, if a child is taken away a second time, is it harder for the bparents to get him back?>>>>

I have never had a child go back a second time. My older kids came to me their second time in foster care. I didn't have them the first time. My first foster child was with me her second time in foster care. She did not go back. I had a sibling group of four that was with me their second time in fc. They were later adopted. I know other ff's that have had kids RU then come back in care. I haven't heard of any of them RU a second time. I think that DCFS is very careful about RU after a failed RU and I think that judges see the bp's attempts as too little too late a second time.

Good luck to you!