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I had two jobs, and i went about it two different ways.
For my one job....I knew that the Executive Director had some rather negative views on adoption...so, when we were approved instead of going to her with my news, i went to the human resource person. I explained to her that we were waiting for an adoption placement and had no way of knowing when this would happen, or how much notice I could give. She was absolutely supportive, and reassured me that all would be looked after when the time came.
As for my other job.... By the time I was hired for this job, we had already given up on adoption working out for us....imagine my surprise when we got matched up right after i was hired. I went to her and explained to her ...I would have been more upfront when I was being hired, but we had honestly thought this wasnt going to work out. I told her it was still uncertain ( birthmom's change their minds) but I would understand if they didnt want to wait it out. Turns out she was adopted and more than excited for us. She told me i would always have a job there when and if the time came that i wanted to return to work.
Is there anyone that you can notify that may be a little more understanding? If not, i might be more likely to wait until you are matched up with a pbmom...you never know how long you may be waiting, and a miserable work environment may just make it seem longer......maybe that isnt completely upfront but do couples have to notify their bosses when they begin to try to conceive a baby? just a thought.
Leigh
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