[terry2ferg]

I am just looking for advice on how and when to tell my boss that I am adopting. I thought I would wait until we were approved and "in the books".....and we're almost there! I am very nervous about telling my boss b/c he can be a jerk and even wanted to fire a woman a few years ago b/c she was pregnant! But I feel like I need to tell them soon b/c once our letter goes out things could go very fast....or very slow (I'm of course hoping for the fast option).

I am just afraid he'll be very judgmental, he seems to think that if a woman has a baby before she is tenured (I work in a research lab at a university) she'll never become a tenure-track faculty member and have her own lab. Of course I'm not even sure this is what I want anymore.....I just want to be a MOM right now :-)

Thanks! I look forward to hearing your stories about how you told your jobs and all your advice!