[riley6]

We have open relationships with both of my kids' birthmothers (two sibling sets). We have visitations twice a year and I mail letters and pictures twice a year. We have a PO Box for correspondence and meet at a neutral place (usually McDonald's). We have a non-binding written agreement. In it we put that we would honor visits as long as they were in the children's best interests and would stop them if the parents behaved inappropriately or the children no longer want them. In my state, there is no OA if you adopt from foster care, but once the adoption is final, you are the parent and YOU decide what you want.