[mallow]

Hi. I am a foster mom to a wonderful child and I am concerned for the child and the bmom. I very much want to adopt my fc but I think mom is ok to be in this child's life, just not as a mom. I know a bmom that lost her child and was told she could not know anything about or have anything to do with her baby til the child was 18. Is this standard? I live in Pa. Honestly, what I'd like to happen is for me to adopt the child but have the option for bmom to maintain contact. I trust her (I think) to not do anything to cause trouble, such as run off with him. Actually, I even think she likes the way things are now. She gets to come in and have the good times, even spoil him a bit on visits, but not have the responsibility.

Thanks! I'd appreciate any info I can get on the situation.

Becky