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the CW is making you feel guilty.
some children cannot function in a family setting, the intamacy is just too much for them to handle.
its not the childs fault, and its not your fault, its just the way it is due to the childs past.
it isnt fair for some kids to bounce around from foster home to foster home when they just see it as more failures, but in a group/ residential program, it gives the child some time to deal with what they have to deal with, without worrying about being bounced around.
its ok to have second guesses, its ok for you to feel guilty, its ok for you to feel like you failed, its ok for you to think you ruined this childs life by disrupting....but these are all just feelings and not the facts....
the fact and the truth is, the child wasnt ready to be placed with you. this child needs more than a loving home.
we are going through this ourselves...its very hard...but i have come to realize, that the abuse and neglect some of these kids have, just cant function in a family setting and its not something we did, or didnt do, its just that the things that were done to this child, needs more time to deal and heal before she should be placed in a family setting
dadfor2
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