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Hi Carol and welcome!
First off, whether going through a private adoption or agency adoption, the opportunity is there to speak to a potential Birthmother over the phone.
As nervous as you might be, most likely the potential Birthmother will be nervous as well.
The most important thing is to just be yourself. If you're nervous, it's OK to tell her that.
I would keep the first conversation on a lighter note. Let her call the shots and ask the questions. Offer to answer any questions she may have. Please let her feel like she is an important person for who she is, not just because she is carrying a baby that one day may be yours.
Ask her about her hobbies and interests. Talk to her about what kind of contact she would like to have after placement. Encourage her to ask you questions.
Hope this helps!
JJ
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