[michellemartin]

I'm just going to say that I personally did respond to a thread by an amom saying she was wanting to cut back the visits. I - in her situation- agreed with her that ~at that time~ the best thing for her to do would be to clearly state what needed to change in their relationship and cut the visits back. I dont think in every situation an open agreement should be kept 200% open. Sometimes either part of the triad needs to back off for a minute. I know that at any time Kara's parents can tell me, sorry but goodbye. I would have to accept that and move on. I would hope they would open it back up again if that were to happen. But I guess what my point is here is that EVERY situation is DIFFERENT and what works for one will not work for everyone.