I have lost both of my parents. Both of them died before the age of 60. They didn't meet any of their three grandchildren. My sister has two bio children, and I have a 3 year old adopted son. What you will find is there will be some things that are like your Mom in your children, because whether you want to be or not, you are probably like your mom. My son, niece, and nephew are very similiar in personality and we know it is a direct reflextion of how much both my sister and I are like my Mother. The other funny thing is you never know what your children are going to look like. They mimic your facial expressions, which you may have mimicked from your parents, and so on... My husband and his two siblings are all adopted. What is very ironic is that all of the grandchildren on his side of the family, (none of whom are bio related to each other) all look alike. Life is funny.
I think your biggest sadness may be that you miss your Mom during this very exciting, happy, scary, and wonderful time of life. I think you would feel this way whether you were adopting or pregnant. I know I still miss my Mom every day and can understand the pain you feel. After adopting my son, he started to fill some of the sadness I still felt from the loss of my mother in my heart.
Best wishes on your adoption journey.
