[foxl]

But, my dd is Indian and very dark-skinned, and we are northern European.

We live in a border state (Civil War stuff all over), and I have had no derogatory remarks made (she is only 3.5 ...). Family is handling it well (much better than I anticipated), she is in a mixed-race daycare class with African American teachers, and so far has not seemed concerned by the differences, herself.

My husband has gotten some dirty looks when alone with her, from African American women. He just blew it off.

Most people are really nice, some are openly curious, but if you are not defensive, you will find they are not malicious in their curiosity.

The sweetest thing that happened, a little African American girl asked me if she was my daughter, and when I said yes without explaining, she said, "well, she's kinda brown!" I enjoyed the opportunity to explain to her, and she seemed to appreciate my explanation.

Best wishes to you, and I am hoping you accept your referral! And post pix, if you are willing!
Linda