[riley6]

What is the 3 yr old's history? Did he come to you from another fh or from his bmom? I would not be giving him time-outs right now. I would give him time-ins when he misbehaves. Tell him that you need to keep him (and the others) safe and since he is not being safe, he will have to stay with you. Don't let him out of your sight. He can sit and play with a little toy, read a book, do some little task you've asked him to, whatever, while he is right next to you.

Give him time. A month's not too long for him to be with you, but to his little, confused mind, a month away from his mommy (regardless of the reason), is a life-time.

Good luck!