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Lynn
When we got the call it was mid afternoon on a Tuesday. Our SW called us to tell us about the twins, and read their profile to us. She wanted to be sure we were interested in being presented before calling the Twins Social worker. After we agreed that we were indeed interested in being presented our SW sent our homestudy to the Twins SW and called her to tell her about us. The following Monday we were called and told that we had been "identified" and that the disclosure meeting would be the following Monday. At the disclosure meeting we got to see their whole file and got the names and phone numbers for their fostermoms, pediatricians and the bios SW to call and ask anything we wanted - we were also provided with their medical and birth records to show to our pediatrician. Both the twins SW and our SW were in attendance.
They were very clear that they did not want us to decide that moment, because they wanted us to make the phone calls etc.... They know that you can really get caught up in the excitement. We made the calls and the following day called them to confirm that we accepted the match wholeheartedly. We then scheduled the transition (they were in different foster homes) and 10 days later they were home!
Seems so long ago now!
Best of luck, I know that I always feel better when I can have a picture of what it may be like. Keep in mind that in many states a number of families have to go to a "staffing" to be choosen. I would imagine that when you get "the call" that you could, at that point, ask your worker if there are other families being considered.
I know that our SW asked us in the beginning if we wanted to know about the children before sending our homestudy or whether we wanted her to just submit our profile and call us when we had been identified as a family. I guess some people would just go nuts knowing that they were being presented, but I felt that the more I knew the better, the more interaction I had with the sw, the better she would get to know what our parameters were etc... I did tell her, however, that we didn't want to be a stumbling block and that if a situation came up that she thought we would be a good fit and she couldn't get to us to just use her judgement. They aren't going to make you take a match, afterall. Personally, I just didn't want her to see a great potential match at four on a Friday and not be able to contact us, and let it slide. Others might feel diferently.
Bumpkin
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