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aJ,
I am new to this forum and happy to finally have some support. I've been dealing with this in silence for the most part for 17 years. However, no..you are not a selfish witch. I have to agree with the last posting though..the important thing now is the child. What I am dealing with now might help you feel NOT so alone. My son had the opportunity to meet his half brother and sister in June of this year. Ours is an open adoption as well. My cousin set this up; the a/mom was somewhat against it; she didn't think that he should meet them and not me at the same time. I felt like whatever he was ready for was what was the most important and asked my cousin who has been the liason and assisted me through the birth, etc. to ask the b/mom to call me so I could assure her that this was ok. The visit went on as scheduled; the two children, daughter 28 and son, 24 that I raised went well..the kids all exchanged email addresses, etc.. and my daughter took pics of all three of them together. It's the first pic I have had of him besides the ones I took in the hospital when he was born. He looks like a shorter twin of my 24 year old son and there is no denying any of my kids and that I gave birth to them. However..now..I've asked my daughter to give him my email address and phone numbers..she has more pics she is suppose to be sending via the net that she took and I have received none..so, I'm sort of feeling a little controlled by my daughter right now and a little selfish myself b/c now I am feeling anxious to meet him. But..I still feel that it should be up to him and he needs to meet me when HE is ready. But, I am still going to be patiently waiting and searching on my own for him. I have a feeling the time is near. I hope that this helps..in essence..I'm feeling a little left out right now. And, while I am attempting to help you feel a little less selfish, if anyone has any support on this situation of mine..it's much appreciated. God Bless to you all!
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