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AJ,
I'm an adad, and I don't think this makes you a "selfish witch." The bmom of our daughter, Amie, seems to feel much like you, but won't speak to us anymore or accept our pictures and letters or phone calls. I am trying to understand and can't imagine her suffering. I won't lie. I think it would be nice if you could at least keep the lines somewhat open, but be honest about how you can't endure visits. Amie's bmom isn't a bad person; she just can't deal right now. And nothing can force her into readiness. I wish she would at least write me a letter saying what she needs/ doesn't need, but ultimately, it's your choice.
Mike
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A-father to four.
"First comes smiles. Then lies. Last is gunfire." Roland Deschain
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