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Unfotunately, he is sentenced to your house. His life has been turned upside down and rather then cope, he has chosen to shut down. Has he been in and out of foster care a lot? Maybe his life experience has told him that relationships don't last, so why bother.
Don't respond to she and if possible, get your kids to ask who he means when he says she. Maybe his mom told him not to use adults first names. Maybe he can call you Mrs/MIss Star instead of star?
Talk to him a lot even if he fails to respond. He isn't missing anything you say. Include him in activities even if he stands there looking bored. Go on as if you don't notice.
Likely he's still checking out his environment. Often kids in care are hypervigilant and hold back until they have gaged every reaction.-It's a survival skill. With the more aggressive kids, you can at least tell when you're being tested. With the passive kids, it just feels like living with a ghost or zombie. Hopefully when he feels more comfortable, he'll interact more.
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