My husband and I are considering adoption. We attended a seminar at an international agency where it was explained to us that a perfectly clean medical record would be best, even if we needed our doctor to agree to leave some things off --like the fact that I take an anti-depressant or that my husband takes medication for a heart condition. Both of these issues are really under control and never even effect our daily lives. But, first, I am concerned about whether we should even disclose these medications to any international agency or be open with our caseworker and just follow his/her directions on how to fill out paperwork whether or not s/he suggests we disclose everything. Second, if we choose domestic adoption, I am not sure how much medical information makes it through to birth mothers who would consider us... wouldn't these medications come up in the home study physical? If so, would such information be passed on to a birthmother? Would such information be a turn off to a birth mother who does not realize how stable and healthy we are? Should we just keep this information completely to ourselves? Any experience with this out there?
