[LisaCA]

I agree with rtsmom. Our bmom was 15 and we have a great relationship with her parents. I think at that young age they are definitely influenced by their parents. If her mom feels good about you then that's great. we decided that all her brelatives would be relatives as far as we're concerned. Her aunts are her aunts, her bgrandparents are definitely involved and grandparents, and anyone else who wants to be in her life, that's great. we've only had her for 2 months, but everything seems to be working out. we send her bfamily a ton of pictures, we call weekly and let them know what's up, just like we do with the other grandparents, and we all like it. turns out I like her bgrandparents much better than the other two sets:-). And you can never have too many grandparents to spoil you silly.

the comment about school sounded familiar. I have photos of our bmom in bed the day after giving birth reading her report card and discussing it with her friends-definitely 15 years old! her parents (bgrandparents) said they viewed us as another set of parents to their 15 year old, which we found flattering. You really won't know the family dynamic unless you hang with them, and meeting bgrandma and grandpa might be useful.

take care,

LisaCA