Meggie,
Wow! Hadn't thought about this thread in a while.... lol.
Thank you for your thoughts.
Just an update for everyone: Matt seems to be doing better this summer with all of it. He still feels he has nothing in common with the aparents, but he DID come to Fourth of July with them, and even made a distinct effort to initiate a conversation with Marie's mom. We were all on my parent's boat, waiting for fireworks, and I looked over... and hey! He and Y were in an animated, friendly discussion.
It'll be Ok.... it would be nice if all four of us (aparents and Matt and me) REALLY hit it off, but I guess I have no right to complain, eh? I have a good hubby and a beautiful daughter and a happy, healthy birthdaughter.
I think his biggest concern is what we will tell our daughter, Elise, as she grows. And what Elise will think about casual sex based on my history. (Mind you, he has his own history.
) My attitude about that is I think he's worrying for nothing, and I am just waiting for the time to come so I can be proved right.
LOL. I really don't think Elise is going to be insecure just b/c I placed Marie.... she'll have years and years of us being there, being her mommy and daddy, and I think that security will outweigh any thoughts of us ever relinquishing her (which we would never do). And I also think what I say regarding sex and pregnancy might actually have some more punch to it-- can point out that she doesn't want to have to make the same decision I did.
Wonder how the original poster of this thread is doing... are you still out there? Have you made any contact with your bson???
Hugs and thoughts your way.
Nicole