[MommyofEli]

Ok.. I have a question.
My fd came to us Aug 31 after being passed around within her family( all unfit)(mom in jail) But the father never showed interest intil the first court date. The father legitmized himself right then and there. The court did not ask for DNA. Now him and his wife are going through the homestudy...prints and back ground check...and so on. I know this all takes a while to do. Are they going to let the father take her home before everything is back? I am scared for her because this man is married and has been married for years....and fd is only 7mths. I feel like the wife might be mean to her. HEr husband cheated on her and this little girl is the result. "M" can be a hand full(a screamer) and I hope this woman who may already hate what she stands for will mistreat her when she goes into one of her fits. The father and his wife have never kept her and have only seen her in the store by accident. The cw worker feels the same way I do. She said that it made her mad when he walked in the court room( she wondered where he was before they had to take her into care and why come farward now) And she did not like the fact that he was married and has been married and the baby was only seven mths. She also said that a lot of times the judge will let the family take the child home and if something comes back bad on the prints or what ever they will remove the child again. That would be the childs 4th time in a mth being moved around. Is there anyway I can help the child to stay in one place till the father stuff comes back, and if everything is good then move her. Because that just does not seem right to move her to the father and if they do not pass the homestudy have to move her back here and have to go through the whole adjustment again.

Please let me know what you all think. This is my first placement and just want what is best for the little girl and I think the less moving her around the better.(because she is a velcro baby ...She will scream if I get out of her reach or site)I guess she has had many people leave the room and never come back lately and is scared I will do the same thing.