[Nelson]

With all the great advice coming from this group, I'm starting to feel superfluous around here
(which i think is great)!

Just want to add couple of quick points to the discussion:

1st: I believe it is absolutely critical that the letter sound like its coming from both of you. What kind of "father" does it look like your dh will be if he doesn't participate? So of course you must include him. even if you do all the writing–and let's face it, some of us are better at that than our spouses– you should employ one of the devices in the book or that has been suggested here to make it seem like he was involved and is speaking through the letter.

2nd: I know of no sure-fire, elegant way of switching back and forth between 3rd person (he, she, we) and first person (I, me) pronouns, a subject a spend quite a bit of time discussing in the book. the suggestions given here are good compromises (sections that alternate between you and he in 1st person, some thrid person narritive, sections seperated by sub-heads). You have to find the form that gives your letter the greatest sound of truth to your ears, to make it express your voice to the best of your abilities.

Perhaps the group can volunteer some more solutions?

best of luck,