[FL_GirlByProxy]

Chris ~ I read your original post on this thread and was really unsure of how to respond. I felt that I didn't have the whole story, both sides, and I didn't want to jump to conclusions. Well, I still think that I do not know the whole story, but the more you have posted, the scarier your role in this seems to be. I'm sorry Chris, but for a guy of your age, there is a lot of squawking and whining, he said she said, and he did she did. I really wanted to keep my mind open to why your girlfriend's parental rights have been taken, but there is no chance of that now.

1.) People with $0 in the bank can still parent. That is what public assistance is for, and it's not a bad thing if it is used properly.

2.) Bunion surgery does not cancel out a person's ability to parent. She may need extra help for awhile. I had my shoulder operated on and I'm still recovering. I've recieved extra help from my family. Does this mean I am unable to parent?

3.) Depression, bipolar disorder, does not cancel out anyone's ability to parent. If anything, and we will never know, she may have worked on her issues even harder, with her child in mind. What you and CPS have done is taken away any chance for her to do that. We cannot assume that anyone affected this way cannot parent. If we do that, we will be one step away from "genetic cleansing" reappearing. Seriously. Show me the perfect mother, with plenty of $$ in the bank, in perfect mental health, and we'll be looking at a Tide commercial, not reality.

4.) Dishonesty to this degree, not coming clean about your call to CPS, is going to ruin her, and if your only looking out for you, it's going to ruin you as well. That guilt is going to chase you forever, until you own up to what you've done. All of your excuses serve as a way for you to reason with yourself that you are in the right. I believe you need to re-examine this, truly. Look at the reasons that YOU chose not to parent, instead of the reasons that you blame her for.

I, as well as the other posters here, thought long and hard before posting. I still believe we don't know everything, and that would be fine, if your posts did not project your situation into the "Look what she did", "Look what she can't do", and "Look what she doesn't have ($$)", along with all of your daily needs that were not recognized by her. I am so confused as to who is the child and who is the adult in your 24/7 parent/child relationship. What I see is that you acted as a psuedo-parent, (a real parent in your own mind only), took false control of a situation, and stole all control from your girlfriend. If she was really in such bad shape as not able to parent, if she really is the child that you describe, she really should have had a guardian in court for her, fighting for her rights, and the rights of her child to be raised by her mother.