[BrandyHagz]

I’m going to reply as a birthmother and an adoptee.

I was a little taken back by your automatic thoughts of drug addiction and scam.

You do realize your talking about the woman who made you a mother, right? The woman whose blood pumps thru the veins of your daughter…

I don’t generally know how to respond to methods of thoughts like that. A few months ago, I was at a local businesswoman’s meeting, and when I started talking about being a birthmother, there was an automatic assumption that I was a drug user, at least at some point.

Not all birthmothers are what you see at Lifetime TV. In fact, most of the ones I know were college students, unable to care for a child emotionally or financially, so they did the only thing they could do.

Birthmothers go on to be mothers, business owners, soccer moms, wives and PTO members.

There is nothing to be afraid of. We don’t bite.

By the way, there is no way to know that the birthmother of your daughter feels the same way that your daughter does. It really sounds like your daughter found an anti-adoption site, and feed off the info they spew. That’s unfortunate, because it call could have been avoided if you’d just talked with her about it.

I was born, adopted and raised in an open adoption, that was thirty (plus) years ago.

Kids are only as confused as their parents. Educate yourself about what it means to have your daughters birthmother in her life, there is nothing to be afraid of.