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I must add my amen to what the other posters have said. You simply must put your daughter's feelings above your own. As much as we love our children, by whatever means they come to us, the job of a parent is to do the best thing for the child. You have already brought out her defenses and caused her to act behind your back. How much better it would be if you could have gone to those websites with her and then been able to discuss the content with her. She will be in college next year and able to go to many more challenging places than websites if she chooses. I hope you will be able to calmly apologize to her for forbiding her to seek answers to the basic questions that every adoptee has. This is a tough journey for her to be on. How much better for her to go accompanied by her parents and with their blessing than alone and in secret. And how precious it would be to share this exciting adventure with her. Eighteen years may be the law's "right time", but sometimes the heart is ready for the journey much earlier. God bless.
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