Oh I forgot,
It is me again....
I also wanted to tell you that are children's emotions are fed by are own. For example, when receiving the letter from birthmom if you potrayed it as a positive thing your daug. would more in likely too. If you act scared, bitter etc. that is how your daug. may potray the situation. You have a lot of power use it while you have it. I wouldn't jump into any situation with Bmom you do not know her or her intentions. I don't think she means harm but she may have unresolved feelings and your daughter is in a confused state. I would start slow with a simple letter thanking her for writing you and inquiring about---- . and go from there. No
one can claim your the "bad" guy and that is your only weakness in this situation.So don't be the bad guy!!! Remember your husband and you have raised her to be the lovely girl she is. That is her foundation keep on building even if the view is blurry.
Nikki
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Adoptive Mommy!
Sommer- 3 years old when placed
Joseph- 3 months old when placed
Vincent- 4 months old when placed
Adopted through fost/adopt
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