[PattiPanCakes]

Hello.
I am new to these forums so forgive me if I sound totally stupid but I don't know where else to turn.
My husband and I adopted our two daughters as infants. Rosemary is going to be 17 and Alice is 14. Everthing was just perfect until recently.
About 6 weeks ago, I was contacted by the social worker that helped us with Rosemary's adoption. I lamost fell off my chair when I hear what she said. After nearly 17 years, R's biological mother was asking for an update and requesting contact. I got the impression that she thought it was OK to "open" the adoption because "that's the norm now" as the Social Worker said!
We don't know anything about this woman. She could be a drug addict, she could be a scam artist. All I know is that she was 17, healthy, of Italian decent and didn't want my precious baby. And now, she thinks she can just come right back in here a lifetime later and pick up where she left off?
I know that some people want to find their biological families for mediacl reasons and such, but I know that my children have no need for such things and they have always both been so good and happy. So I told the caller that I would discuss it with my husband and we would get back to her.
We decided that while our daughter was still a child and under our supervision, she really could not make such a decision and did not have the emotional need or capapcity to deal with a situation like this. If she wants to when she is older, then I cannot stop her, but I am really afraid right now that she would not be able to really understand this woman's place and could be taken advantage of emotionally. She is at a really important place in her life now; being accepted into a good college, her last year at really being a kid, all the normal stuff that we have strived to give her and she does not need to be sidetracked right now by things much less important to her life's future.
While we were discussing this, I guess she over heard my husband and me, but R didn't say anything. I was not going to talk to her about it since we had made a final decision. I just noticed that she started acting odd.
Well, just 3 days ago, it all blew up!
Aparently, after hearing us, R went on to some internet places and read all this stuff written by biological mothers about the children they adopted out and the "mother child bond" I don't know exactly where she went, but thet stuff that she is saying is crazy!!! She is talking about how children were stolen!WHether we "cohersed" her biological mother. And is demanding that we allow her access to her "natural" mother. She will not accept that it is not possible for at least another year and will not listen to reason at all. Suddenly, I have become the worst mother in the whole world and I feel like my heart has been torn in two! And she keeps trying to "educate" my other daughter also.
We have taken away her laptop so she can't read this nonsense anymore ( and here I am asking for help), but she is like a changed person. All I know is that if she acts like this after just knowing a little bit of information, then there is no way she can handle anything else right now. She is angry and nasty and talks about adoption all the time. She claims we are all in denial and not accepting her "true self"- oh, it is terrible!
So please...what can I do? How can I get my daughter back and make this nightmare go away?
I want to find this crazy place and tell these lulu's what they have done to my daughter with their silly ideas!
Anyone have experience with this kind of thing? I know it's really late, but I just can't sleep.
Thank you for reading this.
Patti