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I have read so many negative comments in these chat rooms that I have been filled with fear that my sons will resent me some day. I pray that is not true.
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It's sad but true that we read more negative stories than positive. But, it is human nature to complain. I read a question a couple years back:
"How quick are you to complain about bad service, food or an experience? When was the last time you went out of your way to praise good service, food or an experience?" I've made a conscious effort ever since to offer praise and it's amazing how another's eyes light up and the big smile they get.
I share the other adoptees positive feelings about my parents (adoptive). They are both deceased now and I miss them terribly. I spoke at both their funeral services. A business associate and friend of my Dad's came up to me after the service. He has two teenage daughters and he said to me
"If my daughters, as they mature, have half the loving feelings for me that you spoke with for your Dad, I will feel that I too was a good Dad" The fact that I was adopted made no difference ~ they were my parents, I was their child and we were a loving family.
Plareb:
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Because these forums are such a great source of support, we mostly hear about the sadness and pain involved with adoption. It does sometimes make me doubt the path we have chosen as adoptive parents.
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I read a post by an adoptive mother once who was hesitant to proceed with their plans for adopting a second child because she had been influenced by all the negative things she read on the forum. I started the thread: “Insight for Aparents from an Adoptee”.
Insight for Aparents from an Adoptee
One positive story led to many other positive stories. One adoptive mother sent me a pmessage that whenever she gets depressed after reading only negative posts, she goes back to read the "Insight thread" again. BTW ~ the adoptive Mother that motivated me to start the thread did proceed with her second adoption.
