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Someone is questioning the love you have for your siblings and you feel the need to try to explain the depths of your love, simply because there is no biological relationship to them?
Love transcends the physical. It is not limited in the physical world, but biology is.
I may have a guilt-ridden obligation to attend a biological relative gathering during the holidays. It's not spontaneous. I freely seek to attend a gathering with those from whom I feel love and to whom I love. I don't love all of my biological relatives. I can't imagine spending an eternity with some of them.
DNA does not describe me as a person. It only describes the body that I use to get around. Okay, so I have the same suit as somebody else. I could congregate with others with the same uniform and find comeraderie, but they don't complete my soul. Love does that, and love knows no bounds.
Often people use spouses as an example of true family members being not-related.
I am an adoptive mother. My children are both biological and adopted. They are completely glued to one another. We have a very close-knit family. Our family does not include my biological brother. He is argumentative and pompous. He does not share our values. We may look alike, but then so does one of my high school classmates.
What makes a family real? Love, trust, respect, compromise, honesty...see where I'm going here? These are all intangible, non-physical qualities.
It is not fair of this person to ask you to define the limits of what true family is. It comes from the heart, mind, and spirit.
Best of luck.
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