There is one problem with being 'anti-adoption'. While I totally and, unequivocally agree that, when pressured to give a baby up for adoption, I would not do it. The flipside is, when, one of the biological parents does not the exhibit the behavior to be responsible. While I did not wish to be a 'single-parent', I also, did not want my fiance to be one either. My reasoning for this, is, on several occasions, when my medical problems became prominent, she was not, and refused to be, proactive about my health. She expected me to tell her every single time, instead of noticing signs. I have Depression, Epilepsy, Hydrocephalus and, a brain aneurysm. Since she took that position, I was not going to be made to take sole care of the baby. She was abused by her step-father for 13yrs.(4-17yrs.-old, 1972-85) and, to this day, our relationship is not equal. It is a 24/7 parent-child relationship. Additionally, She is somewhat, emotionally incapable of taking care of herself. I had report our situation to Child Protective Services. We get to see the baby on a monthly basis. I am happy with that. It allows me to love the boy, from afar, without creating any tension between myself and, the adoptive couple. In addition, my fiance is Bi-Polar II. She is making outlandish, illogical and, irresponsible statements constantly. I wasn't going to allow a baby to be subjected to that. Initially, All she talked about was, getting her tubes tied and, that, she never wanted to have children, this being prior to getting pregnant. Well that all changed completely, once she was pregnant and, the baby was born. She did not want me at pre-natal visits yet, she expected me to be supportive. I was not going to expose a baby to the uncontrolled atmosphere, of her, Bi-Polar Disorder.
Christopher
