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If 95% of you doesn't want to do this, why do it? It's not fair to you or the girl to try and pretend everything's okay and worth finalizing. You're both human beings who deserve happiness, and I'm sure you both tried your best, but it didn't work. It doesn't make either of you bad. Consider it like any other relationship: When a friendship or romance doesn't work out, we usually try not to torture ourselves by "forcing it." That rarely works.
Don't let this scare you away from foster care. Not all foster kids are like this. You have the potential to be a wonderful mother to the right child, but it's unfair to beat yourself up over not bonding with ONE child.
Mike
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A-father to four.
"First comes smiles. Then lies. Last is gunfire." Roland Deschain
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