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If you're interested in having biological children, I'd suggest doing that first--for one thing, waiting may make bio kids impossible because fertility goes down as we age.
Also, you may discover that your heart is full with your bio child(ren) or your DH might discover that he wants a house full of children and will open his heart to adoption.
I think it's important to find out why DH vetos adoption even though you are willing to have bio children too. Does he want a small family? Is he concerned about loving the children the same? Does he worry that adopted children have problems?
Perhaps bringing him to adoption events where he can see how adoptive families interact will help change his mind.
But you must also realize that he might not change his mind. If you don't think you can go through life without having adopted, then maybe you need to reevaluate your marriage--BEFORE bringing any children into it.
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