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sunshine
I"m an adoptee. I find it hard to beleive (I know it happents, I know it's out there) that when adoptees grow up they "resent" their adoptive parents (Aussie I also hate saying A-parents, too, you're spot on about that). I think as long as you are honest about their adoption, give them their "birth stories" about when they first come in to your lives, and love them with sheer abandon, they cannot resent you for being the best mom you could be to them. Sure, they *may* have other issues in their lives, but I don't think resentment will be among them.
I LOVE my adoptive parents, and I know they love me and my adoptive brother with all their hearts. That has carried me through for 29 years without ANY doubt, questions, wondering about my birthfamily. Now that I'm a "grownup" I have more questions. But none of my searching for myself will make me resent the wonderful people who raised me.
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You've got to do your own growing, no matter how tall your grandfather was.- Irish Proverb
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