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Ours is a fully open integrated adoption - meaning we all think of each other as family, not 'adoptive' or 'birth' family. It is unusually open. This is what we chose together.
We've found this to be a very satisfying relationship. When we've had medical questions, they've been available. When Ryan has questions about his placement, family history, etc. we'll all be there to fill him in. He has access to the same 'history' as children being raised by their biological parents, though his history comes from more sources. He will never wonder why he was placed, who his biological parents are, etc.
It is not always easy, even when you like each other, are all focused on your child, and all committed to the plan. It is very worth it though.
HTH,
Regina, AMom to Ryan Joshua Thomas
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