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We chose to leave our bio. son home when we traveled. We made this decision for several reasons:
1. China was the unknown to us. We didn't feel comfortable not knowing if we would be able to meet the needs of our bio. son. We were worried about everything from food to possible medical care.
2. We felt that our new child deserved to have at least the two weeks in CHina of undivided parent time. We had been able to give our bio. son so much longer. We wanted our new child to have time to feel comfortable and confident in his relationship with us.
3. We felt our bio. son was too young to really get everything out of this trip that we would have wanted. We will bring both of our children to China someday when they can both learn and appreciate China.
4. The cost of taking our bio son was quite high. This was low on our priority list, but still important.
We left little gifts for our son to open each day in our absence. We left phone cards for him to call us, too. We have a yahoo group following our adoption journey and used this site to post daily updates. We emailed our son each day without fail. We also bought phone cards for us to be able to call him daily. We talked to our son most days, twice. The only days we did not talk to him and email him were the days we were completing the international leg of our journey.
I am sure you will make the best decision for your family!
Mary
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