[grandmawishful]

my son and daughter in law became foster parents to a 4day old neice,she was taken from the birthmom due to drug problems. the bio served some time ,has been in the picture 1yr the child is now almost 3,now that this child has such a bond with her foster parents. now the bio wants her back and wants to break all ties with them.they are devistated,they hoped to maintain a relationship with the child they love her as thier own.The bio works two days a week,has lived in five places since she has been out,she lost her older child due to the same problem and was declared unfit mother.The foster parents have invited her to any special occasions and she can come by any time.we have told her that we will baby sit for her while she goes back to school,but her answer is no she will put her in day care. We just cant believe she can be so cold, the child cries and begs to come home she has just started overnights this month and the child is so afraid,she will say to me my daddy and mommy are coming back for me ?That is if they just leave for a minute.well the plan from dcfs is to return her to the bmom i guess that we will just be out of the picture from the sounds of what i have read.I so wish I could soften this for this sweet little child that I may never see again,we had so hoped she would decide to let us adopt her.they told us to have her ready in september just 3 more weeks.This is my daughter in laws family and they are a family that fights and alway must be the winner im not really from that kind of family and I dont know how to talk to them,they dont always tell the truth,they yell and scream and use lots of unspeakable words.any way just in case some one reads this its maybe not so good to be a foster parent to a family member it sure seems to cause a lot of trouble. Its to bad everyone cant just do whats best for the child,she didnt ask for any of this.