[chickenrunshrek]

Ours was a family adoption (we adopted our grand-niece) so a closed adoption really wasn't an option for us. But I sometimes really wish it had been. I read so many stories of adoptive parents who are "best friends" with the birthmoms. We're not. We have nothing in common. When we do see each other it is several hours of listening to her blame her life on everyone else. There is never any attempt to develop a consistant relationship with our daughter, let alone signifigant interaction. And yet I'd take a visit with her any day over visits with birthdad. Then there are all the negatives that have developed with family members. Some treat us like any other parents, others treat us as though we are just babysitting, and some ignore the whole thing completely. But I'm sure that in certain cases open adoptions work for all...