Hi, KatieAO! I think we may have met at the NACAC conference? Anyway, no one responded to your question about how to organize your house with 6 kids. We don't have any kids yet (:[), so I can't speak from experience, but I thought I would offer this website:
http://www.flylady.net You can sign up for emails, which help you keep on top of your housework. Also, there's a website
http://www.savingdinner.com It has a paid service--something like $30 a year, that will send you a weekly menu plan complete with a shopping list. The meals are healthy, cheap, and can be fixed in about 30 minutes. I would think these sort of home economies would be important with a large family. My favorite books on older child adoption are Parenting the Hurt Child by Keck and Kupecky, Parenting with Love and Logic by Foster Cline, and Our Own by Tricia Maskew. I also think it would be helpful to get involved with your area's foster parent association to get the support of people who (a) don't think you're crazy or a saint or a masochist, and (b) can truly empathize with your struggles. Heck, you might even be able to work out a respite switch with another large family. Please let us know how it goes! It is a wonderful, wonderful thing you are doing for these kids. Sibling relationships are really important.