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Here are my thoughts:
1. First, not every potential birth parent will want or need assistance with medical or living expenses.
2. Second, each state has different laws regarding what a pafamily can pay for and what they can't.
3. Third, you must understand that any offer to pay for these expenses is considered an 'act of charity' and is not reimbursable should the pbfamily choose not to place or not to place with you. A good rule of thumb: don't pay now if you would not have otherwise offered to pay.
Lastly, she's not 'blessing' anyone with a child. She's making a choice or plan to not parent the child she is carrying, instead finding others that can and wish to do so. One should never look at any assistance you provide her with as 'compensation' for a 'gift' or 'blessing' she's giving you because that's not the case.
IMHO
Regina, AMom to Ryan Joshua Thomas
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