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Wow! I'm amazed by all the responses and appreciate every one.
You guys have made me realize one thing, that whatever research I have done on adoption, it hasn't been enough. I obviously didn't have things straight on open adoption and will read more about it, on these boards as well as any books I can find.
Alot of the stories on here has inspired me to look beyond my ideals of adoption and find the true story. Truth is, it looks like there are more pros to open adoption than cons and I would have never thought that.
I won't lie, the fear is still there and I don't know if I will ever be able to achieve the kind of openess that some of you have between the bfamilies and afamilies but I will say that I don't think closed adoption is for us now either. We're just going to have to find a happy medium. I want to able to answer the child's questions and I don't want them to feel ashamed or think that I was ashamed of how we came to have them.
Again, I appreciate everyone's time and advice. You guys are great. I'm so glad I found this forum.
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