[mckenna]

i did not read all the replys to you, but i want you to know that i have many friends with adopted children that in no way want an open adoptioin (granted, most of my friends adopted through the state and there are other issues). i have an open adoptionwith my son's bmom. open adoption only works if everyone can respect each others roles in the child's life. many of my friends are scared like you are but as they see how our adoption is working they realize that it is not as scary as it may first seem. what every you decide has to be right for your family and as long as you are open and honest up front and no one is mislead things will work out. good luck to you and i hope you find out more answers to your adoption questions. it is a new and exciting world.