[Daisha]

Kelly ~

Don't feel selfish. Everyone has different wants and different feelings and there are potential bmom's out there that want the same thing as you do. There are bmom's out there who have choosen a closed or semi-open (letters and pictures) because they feel that a totally open adoption is NOT in the best interest of the child. I have talked to many who feel this way.

I feel the same as you do in many aspects and have felt guilt for being "selfish". But to each his own. This forum has made me realize that it is okay to feel and to want whatever it is that we feel and want without the guilt.

I also absolutely agree that we should always be up front with a potential bmom on our intentions. They are special and should never be mislead.

Good luck in your quest for a baby!!