[BrandyHagz]

I just wanted to add that most open adoptions aren’t done for the benefit of the birthmother, they are in place to benefit the child.

Only you know what you can do, or are willing to do. It’s not selfish to want things to go one way or the other…its just how you feel, and there is nothing wrong with that.

Open adoptions allow the adoptee more of an opportunity to know more about their roots and so forth. Sure, birthparents have the added bonus of knowing how the child is doing, but that isn’t the driving force behind open adoption.

By the way, your feelings are normal and natural.