[chickenrunshrek]

Well, bmom has slowly withdrawn from our lives over the past 4 years. We used to see her several times a year but we haven't heard from her since last November. She is pregnant again (bdad already had another child with another young girl). We don't expect to hear from either one much. They still see her as the 5 month old baby that they relenquished custody of. They don't know how to interact with her as a pre-schooler. I didn't mention earlier but spousal unit is pregnant, due in a few weeks. The pregnancy has provided a great opportunity to talk about adoption with M. We've explained that some babies are in their Mommy's tummy and other babies are picked by their mommy and daddy. M had me laughing when she asked why God had put her in the wrong tummy. We explained that God is so busy that sometimes He mixes things up and the mommy & daddy have to go find their baby.

As for the relationship with bmom, don't worry about it. It will change over the years, that is the only thing that you can be certain of. Just remember that whatever happens, you are the mom and you know what is best for your child. Just relax. Parenting is the scariest, most exciting, and coolest thing in the world...